Breaking Generational Curses
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You do not have to abuse somebody to pass your demons on
Demons, evil spirits and bad attitudes are linked to wrong thinking
That is why the truth sets us free
Most hang ups (bondages) are linked to wrong ideas that have been taught to you
or sometimes ideas that you have developed as a result of bad experiences and have come to accept as true
The Moabites and The Ammonites were the nations that descended from Lot
Lot had an incestuous relationship with his daughters who gave birth to the children that fathered these nations
The Moabites and the Ammonites worshiped the gods of Chemosh and Molech respectively
These Gods encouraged all sorts of sexual perversions including adultery, homosexuality, prostitution and incest
They even demanded the sacrifice of children in the fire
Lots descendants failed to rid themselves of these evils
Moab and Ammon were eventually excluded from the Assembly of the Lord and Israel was forbidden to make peace with them
Interestingly, Ruth, the grandmother of David, was a Moabite
The Abused can become Abusers if they Don't Forgive
Very often, people who abuse others have been abused themselves
The Bible says "do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
It doesn't say "do to others what they do to you!"
Yet, so often this is exactly what happens
"Vengeance is mine" says the Lord
"Turn the other cheek" is easy to say but hard to do
Unless we forgive people who have hurt us, God cannot take away our pain
When we are hurting, we can become insensitive to other's needs
Sometimes we end up taking it out on somebody else - but this just causes guilt in addition to our pain
It is very hard to forgive others when we see ourselves as innocent or perfect
Yet almost always, when a child is abused they have done nothing wrong
How then can they forgive?
Who can take away their pain?
Sometimes when children have been naughty or have flirted with the abuser, they think that they are to blame
these behaviours may need to be corrected but they do not justify abuse
We cannot accept abuse - it must be rejected punished and compensated
Jesus did this when he died on the cross
The Bible tells us that no man, not even one, is without Sin (besides Christ)
While sin means to disobey God, when we disobey God, we always end up abusing somebody, even if it is ourselves
If we can see ourselves as sinners and allow God to forgive us, often God will give us the strength to forgive others
When we fail to see that we are not perfect and that we need God's mercy and grace
we become quick to judge and condemn others
It is hard to forgive somebody who is continuing to abuse us
first we must stop the abuse from happening
this often means getting help from others
Self centeredness often leads us to ignore the needs of others
Pain sometimes leads to revengeful or abusive behaviors
Sometimes we become so desensitized to pain that we don't realize when we are hurting others
Sometimes we are so filled with hatred that we deliberately abuse others
When we are abused, the tendency is to abuse others
When we are loved, the tendency is to love others
While women cannot rape a man physically, women can be very cruel to men
It is very hard to be attracted to something that causes pain
If the first sexual experiences with the opposite sex are extremely painful and negative, there may not be a second
Pain not only causes us to avoid certain situations, it can cause us to hurt others
Pain leads to fear and hatred
Fear can cause us to do some awful things
The relationship between abusers and the abused is not much different from that between the chicken and the egg
What comes first?
In reality, it doesn't really matter because, in our lives, this cycle is repeated over and over and over unless we learn to forgive
Forgiveness is for the Abuser as much as it is for the Abused
Sin and Abuse are very closely related
Abuse is to mistreat, damage or insult
Sin is to disobey God
When we disobey God, we almost always end up abusing somebody (others, ourselves or God himself)
Sinners (abusers) cannot receive forgiveness unless they repent
When we receive forgiveness, that removes guilt
When we forgive others, we release them from spiritual bondage
Even more than this, when we forgive others, God is able to heal our pain
The bible says "what you bind on earth with be bound in heaven" (Matt 16:9)
"If you forgive anybody his sins, they are forgiven" (John 20:23)
"If your forgive a man his sin, I will forgive them too" (2Cor 2:10)
Jesus, while being abused and persecuted and put to death on the cross said:
"Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing"
Non-repentance should not stop us forgiving those who abuse us
If they fail to repent, their guilt remains
If we fail to forgive, our pain remains
There is a God who sees and knows everything
one day, perhaps soon, he is going to come and put things right
Judgment belongs to God
The Bible says "judge not and you will not be judged"
it says "forgive and you will be forgiven"
it says "do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
"the measure you use will be measured to you"
"you will reap what you sow"
We all have to Stand before God one day
Remember the Parable of the Unmerciful Servant
Just as the abuser cannot receive forgiveness without turning from his Sin (repenting)
The abused cannot receive healing without first letting go of the offense (forgiving the abuser)